wedding planning woes...
[yk] lately, i've been getting REALLY frustrated with wedding planning...usually to the point of tears. i know there's no need to be so dramatic and stressed out...but hey, i'm a girl and this is the day that most girls dream of so naturally, i want everything to be perfect.
i think my frustration stems from not knowing what i really want and the things that i know i want, i can't have. so once again, i'm asking for your help...help me figure out all of things i need to consider and prioritize:
1) a ceremony and reception that glorifies God and testifies to others of His goodness to us (duh, this is #1)
2) how i look (determines how much i spend on the dress, makeup, hair, etc)
3) nice photographic memories (determines whether or not to hire a professional photographer, how much to spend on photography, the venue)
4) having a beautiful venue (determines where the wedding is)
5) saving money for the future (determines how much we spend on the wedding)
6) making parents and their friends happy (determines how many people we invite and how many receptions to have)
7) making my friends happy (determines how many people we invite and how many receptions to have, whether or not we have alcohol)
8) decorations (sort of related to nice photographic memories and venue)
9) good food (determines where to have the reception, what food to choose, etc)
oh yeah, the other source of frustration is my lack of working out ever since i started travelling and all the weight i've gained...wish i got married a year ago when i was in the best shape i've ever been in and wasn't so lazy...
don't worry, gordon is doing his fair share of the planning and being very loving, supportive, and patient.
posted by the crafty baker @ 10:42 AM
7 comments
7 Comments:
It seems like #s 2-9 have, either directly or indirectly, some cost element. So, not to increase your stress, you'll probably have to add honeymoon in there as well.
As far as costs go, I think #6 will alleviate quite a bit of that. I've found that Asian parents often--not always--are less inclined to bother with a registry, and are more likely to cut you a check. Of course you can't assume anything, but I just wanted to ease your mind a little bit.
I think you've prioritized things well, although I think #7 will happen regardless of everything else.
oh i haven't prioritized yet...the only one that is prioritized is #1...the rest are just a list as they came to mind...
hi yvonne!
i think these are the most important (in no particular order):
1) Ceremony - not necessarily where it is, but how it would best glorify God through the music, readings, your vows, etc.
2) your parents - I really felt like that was one of the last times I got to honor my parents as their daughter (as you know, Gordon will soon be your family as your family will "give you away"). Especially since you are the first on both sides to get married, this will be particularly special for them.
3) Food - people always remember the food more than the place!! Seriously.
4) Pictures - in all honesty, you really need just a few AWESOME pics to frame, blow up, and show your children and grandchildren!
Yvonne, don't worry about the whole weight thing =). You are so beautiful and you will look amazing on your wedding day. WOOHOO!!!
(p.s. - I've gained about 12 pounds - pre-pregnancy - since my wedding day just because i've been cooking more and eating a lot with my new husband... and the skinny pics of me back from my wedding day just make me more sad!! haha. )
oh ya!! definitely try to save money too! =) when you prioritize what's really important to you, spend the money there and cut in other areas.
=)
IMHO and remember, this is coming from a guy... you don't have to worry about #2 :)... use a pro photog (I'm sure you can get lot's of references from ppl) b/c if you use a friend or relative, you can't get mad at them... as much as you want to honor your parents, don't neglect your own enjoyment... nix the alcohol - enjoyable to have, but very expensive and most ppl probably won't miss it... make good use of your wedding party - they're there for you to try to minimize your stress.
I like how Gordon is loving, supportive, and patient through all of this. I can imagine me stressing about everything, narrowing it down to 2-3 options, and Sandy picking one. hahaha
oh evon!
i know exactly how you feel!
honestly when i look back on my wedding day, nothing really mattered except the ceremony and having all of our family and friends there as witnesses. the rest of the stuff was like icing on the cake. call me whenever you need to talk...i am up all hours of the night and day.
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