big praise and budget?
[yk] praise God that gordon and i have finally booked a venue and date for our wedding! thanks for all the helpful advice and prayers! keep your eyes open for a save-the-date!
throughout the wedding planning, gordon and i have sometimes slipped into the "you only get married once" mentality when booking the venue, choosing a photographer, choosing a dress, etc. OR "better go now before we have children" or "i'll regret not dishing out that few extra hundred dollars" when choosing a destination for our honeymoon. we want to go to a far exotic beachy place before we have kids, when we're the most in shape, and have the means to go. we can save europe for when we're old and wrinkly, but anywhere where a bathing suit is the main article of clothing, i want to go now before the predicted post-marital and pregnancy weight gain! ok maybe i just need to be more secure with my own body image...no matter what stage of life i'm in...
obviously this wishiwashiness about how much to spend means we're not very good about embracing our budget and sticking to it. ok, mostly i'm not very good about it...because i've never had to really live by a budget. i feel like God has blessed me financially so that i can give and spend freely. if you know me, you know that i'm not an extravagant spender by any means and that i enjoy treating people out to eat, but i've never had to be limited by a budget. i also know that it's never bad to budget...even when you aren't struggling with finances. i also know that i should always find joy in giving...no matter if i'm financially comfortable or not. i'm just afraid i'll regret forgoing something that i really want...
posted by the crafty baker @ 7:23 AM
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i want to be one of those young and hip uncles
hey yvonne,
that's really admirable that you're choosing to be a wise steward of what God has given you. i can understand the feelings of possibly regretting not putting more money on certain things on your wedding day...
i remember looking back on my wedding day and having thoughts of regret with certain aspects of the wedding , but i realized those times of looking back and regretting were when i felt dissatisfied in my marriage (not that John is not a good husband, but i was being high maintenance and proud). and of course, when i am content and overjoyed in my marriage, the regrets of the wedding day completely disappear...
the wedding day can be a beautiful show of awe and admiration for hundreds of people...but it's the many days after that really display the beauty and love in your relationship with gordon.
yay!!!! a venue has been found! such a huge relief. i remember the feeling. as for the budget, it's actually good to stick to one b/c i've found wedding vendors to be fairly greedy people who capitalize on such a day. don't let them sway you! just know what you and gordon want and remember that most of it is just for a day. the fun part is after when you're married so save some of the moola for that! beachy bungalow sounds uber nice. have you seen pics of turks and caicos? bellissima.
The only regrets I have with my wedding are forgetting to put on my jewelry until half way through our bride/groom photos and buying too much cake (ask Gordon). My "lets elope" husband now says he would do the wedding the same way in the blink of an eye... not because the wedding went perfectly, but because we were able to share an amazing God glorifying time with our family and friends. And I agree with him :)
The wedding will be beautiful because Christ will be there to celebrate with you and Gordon :) Then He'll be there to guide you through your marriage. He's been faithful to us even in the middle of our self-centeredness... we're 2 stubborn people :P
God has been looking over you both all these years, He is not going to abandon you now. That was how I looked at it on my wedding day. He is in control of everything. Your wedding day will be beautiful and perfect because you are marrying each other. There are so many different ways of doing things that there's no one perfect way. Do try to include everything on your budget, little things can add up, like tipping to various venors (if appropriate) and don't forget sales tax. Once you have the total number in place, you will have a good idea how much you will spend. If you have to go 10% over budget, you will still have an idea how much you will spend at the end. Also, by having a budget, it will help cure the temptation to do everything you read on websites/magazines and stick to things you really want to include. Hope this help.
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