memoirs of a bride-to-be
So I've decided to devote most of my posts to chronicalling the crazy months that are to come in the next few months...wedding planning! This may bore some of you (and if so, hopefully Gordon will post something of interest to you), but I find the wedding planning process most intriguing. I do not claim to be an expert wedding planner but I firmly believe that you can learn from other's experiences.
With that said, I will share about a recent conversion we had about wedding music...it went something like this:
Gordon: So how many songs do you think we need for the wedding ceremony?
Yvonne: at least 6 or 7; 1 for the seating of the grandparents/parents, 1 for when the bridesmaids walk in, 1 for when the bride walks in, 1 or 2 for worship, 1 for the unity candle/prayer/parent appreciation time, and 1 for when bride/groom walk out; were you thinking of playing contemporary Christian or traditional wedding music?
Gordon: Neither. What if the bridesmaids walk out to Destiny's Child [Gordon proceeds to sing "Can you keep up? Baby boy, make me lose my breath..." while Yvonne imagines her bridesmaids bouncing down the aisle to hip hop]
Yvonne: Uh...no.
So chances are, you won't be hearing hip hop at the wedding ceremony. But that doesn't mean Gordon won't be gettin his groove on to Destiny's Child after the ceremony!
Question for the married folk out there: What percentage of invitees can you expect to not attend your wedding? Like how many people can you overshoot your ideal size by?
posted by the crafty baker @ 9:32 PM
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8 Comments:
i remember reading 20% won't show, but i think it is best to be safe and assume that all will show up! otherwise, you'll be stressed when more and more people are replying "yes" and that won't be cool. haha.
We invited ~600ish. A good number attended the ceremony (not sure how many exactly), and 430, which was a smaller number than the ceremony, attended the reception. We had our wedding in the summer so a lot of people were on vacation. Out of those who rsvped "yes" for the reception, only 2 people were no shows and 1 person showed up uninvited.
we invited something around 250 and about 150 came to the ceremony and 120 to the reception.. but then again we were making lots of people fly to Seattle, and a lot of people just didnt want to spend the moolah. pluse we're just not as popular as some (cough sam and carol cough) we bought a cake for 180 ppl and the restaurant only cut maybe 1/4th of the cake. oh.. thanks for delivering the cake Gordon :D
i think 20% no show is reasonable. we also had about 600 people at our wedding. but after all these years, victor and i agree that if we had to do it all over again, we would have much rather had a small, intimate wedding. perhaps even a destination wedding. then they're more personal and you get to spend more time and $$ on those you feel closest to.
a little less than 1/3 didnt show for our wedding even though most were from austin. stuff always seems to come up like other weddings, tests, business trips, etc.
First of all, CONGRATS!!! I think I read somewhere that it was between 20-25% won't show. We had about 25% declines. It also depends on where your guests are coming from. Whereas most of Sunme's invitees were in town, the vast majority of mine were elsewhere.
I'm not married, but I do a lot of wedding research/talking with friends =); the rule of thumb I've heard is to send out the number of invites you want to show up at the wedding (i.e. if you send 200 out (which is actually inviting 400 people with the "and guests"), 200 will show up.
my 2 cents:
read the decline rate was 20%, sent our invitations and i think we figured ours at like less than 3%. but we invited close family and close friends, so most made it.
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